Read­ing the re­ac­tions to the re­cent events at Py­Con, one might think that the biggest prob­lem fac­ing the in­dus­try is the re­ac­tions—or, rather, the over­re­ac­tions—to sex­ism.

Some­one was fired—fired!—for mak­ing a dirty joke!

And, to read the out­rage, Adria Richards per­son­ally fired the joke­ster.

Spoiler: she did­n’t. His em­ployer fired him. Not Richards. His em­ployer.

She merely posted a pic­ture on Twit­ter and wrote a blog post. She’s but a side note in the tale of this de­vel­op­er’s fir­ing.

Yet, who re­ceives the out­rage? Who bears the brunt of the vi­o­lent—and, iron­i­cally, it­self overly sex­ist—back­lash? Richards.

The story is not sex­ism. The story is the re­ac­tion to sex­ism.

It’s not sur­pris­ing. It is easy to fo­cus on re­ac­tions. When you fo­cus on re­ac­tions to prob­lems, you don’t have to face the prob­lems them­selves. You can just keep on go­ing about your life with­out wor­ry­ing. Every­thing goes back to nor­mal. The sta­tus quo is pre­served.

It’s easy: Just find a flaw in the ar­gu­ment. Find some rea­son why this or that is­n’t sex­ist. Point out why it’s not a big deal. De­scribe why this is not the time to deal with it. In­form her that it was “just a joke.” Tell her how she’s com­pletely over­re­act­ing.

Main­tain­ing the sta­tus quo feels good when the sta­tus quo does not neg­a­tively im­pact you.

Of course it is easy for the tech in­dus­try to fo­cus on the re­ac­tions to sex­ism rather than the sex­ism it­self: the tech in­dus­try is dom­i­nated by men, and for the men, the sta­tus quo is fine.

For the women, the sta­tus quo is not fine.

At this point, whether any in­di­vid­ual re­ac­tion is an over­re­ac­tion is unim­por­tant, as, at this point, there is nowhere near e­nough re­ac­tion.

At this point, any­thing that could be sex­ist is sex­ist. At this point, every­thing’s a big deal. At this point, it is al­ways the time to deal with it. At this point, noth­ing is a joke.

At this point, it is rather hard to over­re­act to sex­ism.

It is quite easy, how­ever, to over­re­act to re­ac­tions to sex­ism.

It is eas­ier to fight a straw man than a real one, and over­re­ac­tions to sex­ism are just that: a prob­lem that barely ex­ists; a prob­lem that, com­pared to what we have to­day, would be a good prob­lem to have.

Sex­ism in the tech in­dus­try is cer­tainly the scarier en­emy to fight. It takes every­one to stop it: every­one to speak up when they see it, and even more chal­leng­ingly, every­one to stop them­selves when they are about to do it.

It’s so much eas­ier to com­plain about “Po­lit­i­cal Cor­rect­ness.” It’s so much eas­ier to whine about how “fem­i­nists can’t take a joke.”

In those rare times that some­one is brave enough to speak up, it is so much eas­ier to at­tack them. They’re prob­a­bly women, af­ter all, and it’s not like there’s enough of them in the in­dus­try to fight back.